Figuring out that we have self-critical thoughts, and identifying the voice of our inner saboteur (shout out RuPaul’s Drag Race season 10) is a major step towards valuing ourselves more. If you find yourself being able to point out these self-critical thoughts when they pop up - major congratulations. This is not easy, and takes a lot of patience, insight, and honesty.

It can get pretty lonely trying to combat self-doubt. It can feel like a battle to correct the thoughts that pop up throughout the day, and that's not even touching the harsh unconscious beliefs that we keep buried deep down. Can you think of the last self-critical thing you told yourself? 

I like to think of improving our self-worth as a 3 step process.

  1. Identify and call out the critical thoughts that influence the way you see and treat yourself. These thoughts are often influenced by oppressive societal standards, and the comparison culture we live in. We often internalize erroneous messages about ourselves as the result of being mistreated in the past - in relationships, at work, in the world.

  2. Pay attention to the thoughts as they come up, noticing where and when they arise, and exploring how you experience them. Where do you carry the pain of the criticism physically? What part of yourself do you feel most critical about in these moments? Can we identify a pattern?

  3. Correct these thoughts and beliefs so they accurately reflect us and our amazing worth and value. One by one, we can work through these degrading beliefs and change them so our thoughts represent who we truly are.

It's hard to do this work alone!!! That's why I'm your voice today - to tell you that the self-critical thoughts are NOT right, and to remind you that you are more than enough, you are worthy, valued, and incredible. I have no tolerance for those bullshit thoughts keeping you down! They are wrong. You are the best!

I’m here for you if you want to learn more about this process. Contact me to schedule a free consultation.

laura federico